Dating: Signs of an Unavailable Person

By Geanice Gee, M.A. 

Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who had time for everything or everyone else, except for you? If this was the case, you probably talked to the person about this issue time and time again, but nothing changed, so ultimately, you decided to end the relationship. Afterwards, you may have second-guessed your decision; but why? 

After this failed relationship, what did you learn? How did this relationship affect you mentally, emotionally or physically? Did you gain anything from this relationship other than heartache and a headache? What would you do differently to avoid becoming involved with another unavailable person?

In fact, there are signs to identify an unavailable person, which could potentially help you in the future. Some signs of an unavailable person include:

·         Not being able to follow through with plans; unreliable, unorganized…

·         Working long hours, which doesn't leave much time for anything else

·         Living far away from one another; a long distance relationship is the only option

·         S/he dislikes (hates) his or her job

·         Has an addiction that affects time management skills

·         Spends an unusual amount of time with his or her parents

·         Married and or separated, which technically means that the person is still married

·         Plays the blame game when talking about past relationships; holds no fault

·         Just met, but wants to take up all of your time; calls and texts you 24/7; seems very obsessed

·         Money issues; poor money management

·         Dating someone else

·         Depressed

·         Miserable

·         Immature

*Pay attention to the signs.*