Dating and Relationship: Tips for Valentine's Day

By Geanice Gee,  M.A. 

It's officially Valentine's Day. You know, the day when most people make love instead of war; cuddle instead of bickering and fighting, bleaching clothing, damaging personal property or creeping around with the next door neighbor. Simply put, Valentine's Day is meant to be full of love, peace and harmony. 

In fact, it's often said that Cupid, the Roman God of desire, erotic love, affection and attraction, shoots a bow and arrow wounding his victim's heart, which causes them to fall in love. Do you think you've been victimized by Cupid? Has he pierced your heart and blurred your vision? If so, I guess you have no other choice, but to deal with it because there's no cure for love; but remember that all wounds heal in due time.

In many cultures, it's a tradition for people (especially school-age children) to send a card anonymously to someone that they're attracted to or want to be involved with. However, in American society, this tradition has transformed into a commercial celebration, and is viewed as a time when a lot gifts and cards are exchanged not only among people in a relationship, but between friends and family members as well. 

As it has been said before, Valentine's Day  is meant to be full of love, peace and harmony in addition to flowers, greeting cards, lots of chocolate covered kisses and of course that special person that you've deemed as your valentine. Therefore, it's important to know how not to ruin this day for both yourself and your valentine. Below are some tips to help you cope with your wound of love. 

1.      Make plans early; if you're reading this and it's Valentine's Day, you still have time to make plans, but for future reference, planning ahead could help to avoid a disaster

2.      Try your best to be romantic and surprise your valentine with something out of the  ordinary ; you want this to be a day that you both remember

3.      Spend time alone; this day is for the two of you to appreciate one another

4.      Turn off your phone and give your mate or date your full attention

5.      Whatever you do, don't get upset if you don't get a marriage proposal; this is so cliché